please don’t say “we need to talk” because I will have a panic attack right in front of your eyes
I am certain there are some tutorials going around if you check the tags. A quick search on my part yielded a few results that I’ll link to here. But I only skimmed each so I’m not swearing by them:
And then there’s this resource post on the really helpful blog “referenceforwriters” that although rpcs isn’t affiliated with I do recommend everyone follow
And a Google search will give you another 200,000,000 resources.
My point is that there are a lot of resources at your disposal to educate yourself on how others have learned to write something like kissing. But also, if you look at all of them, you’ll see the styles are very different and yet none of them are ever “wrong”. And I think that’s an important thing to keep in mind. Everyone writes differently and it’s okay if you pick and choose advice to take from every resource you read and stitch together your own unique method and style. And over time as you get better you’ll learn some tricks of your own.
I happen to learn towards the conservative side. In my opinion, keeping it just as a comment without much description is better than trying to write detail and totally killing the mood instead. Sometimes I’ll have my narration say what the character is thinking instead. Or making an unlikely connection - because, remember, people aren’t perfect. Every kiss doesn’t have to be a fairy tale.
Another tool is to use pictures and gifs. You could either use these to substitute narration of a kiss, or watch them and pick up on what is happening and then write that for your narration. In the writer’s reference masterlist there’s a link to couples kissing, and there are a lot of other gifsets out there of that. Use them as stock images and practice writing based on them. See if you can get a friend to beta test it for you, or publish your practices as brief scenes on writing sites - such as my personal favorite: CritiqueCircle - and ask for a review.
I hope that’s helpful.
If anyone else would like to chime in or link to some resources please feel free to reblog and leave your comments below.